Back in the 1980s, the San Antonio Professional Singles Society, an affiliate of Richard Gosse’s organization, was very popular. It may still be for all I know.
Gosse has been getting mostly white men and women together to help them find wives and husbands since the late 1970s. So, whatever you think of Gosse, he’s not all bad.
Excerpt from the Sacrameno Bee
It was after the election of President Donald Trump that Richard Gosse, a matchmaker of sorts, had a realization.
“It dawned on me that Trump has all these qualities that women are attracted to – he’s tall, he’s older, he’s wealthy, he’s well-educated and he’s a dominant alpha male. Unfortunately, he’s also a narcissistic womanizer,” Gosse said. “I recommend women seek the opposite of Donald Trump – bachelors who are younger, shorter, poorer, less-educated and shy.”
Gosse has been taking his message across California, hosting anti-Trump singles parties where he invites women to meet men who aren’t at all like the president.
His views are controversial – he recommends women give short guys a chance, for example, but suggests women lose weight, wear makeup and smile more if they want to improve their chances of getting a date. He’s drawn crowds from across California, and has an upcoming event planned this weekend in Sacramento.
“Some people have complained that I’m disrespectful to the president, but I’m just pointing out that he is the type of guy who makes for a lousy husband. The man has cheated on his wives,” Gosse said. “There are millions of men available in America who aren’t like that.”
Gosse attributes interest in his approach, in part, to the fact that politics is becoming a more important value in relationships – romantic or otherwise.
“Dating in this nation has become very polarized – we’ve got a red America and a blue America,” Gosse said. “That has only intensified. Republicans only want to date Republicans and Democrats only want to date Democrats … if people have opposing values, chances are it’s not going to make for a good connection. It wasn’t always that way.”
A Pew Research Center survey this month found the gap between Democrats and Republicans, measuring their political values, is larger than any point since Pew started polling in 1994, which represents the “continuation of a steep increase in the ideological divisions between the two parties over more than a decade,” according to the survey. Voters disagree widely because they are moving in opposite directions, with Democrats taking more liberal positions and Republicans adopting more conservative views, the survey found.
“That is consistent with a lot of work in the field – people are drawn to others who are similar to them in political ideology, especially as polarized as the country is today,” said Cameron Anderson, a psychologist and a professor at UC Berkeley’s Haas School of Business.
Cheryl Gore-Felton, a clinical psychologist and professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Stanford University’s School of Medicine, said Gosse appears to have tapped into today’s supercharged political climate.
When it comes to Gosse’s theory that women are drawn to Trump-like men, she said “there is a sliver of truth to what he’s saying,” but that it’s an overgeneralization.
“There is a sub-population of women who go for bad boys, so to speak,” Gore-Felton said. “Having said that, most women when they decide who they’re looking for aren’t describing physical attributes. It’s much more about being honest and sincere, having someone who is kind and someone they can talk to. It’s really about values and principles.”
What do you think, gentlemen? Are women really about “values and principles?”
More information about finding a mate can be found in an article about Gosse at Mercury News.