Mary Beth Haglin, who now strips using the name Bambi, has seen her sex charges upgraded from a misdemeanor to a felony after a shocking set of TV interviews in which she blamed the irresistible wooing of her underage sex partner for her crimes.
I don’t have to use the word “alleged” in this story because she’s gone on national TV and admitted in detail her sexual activities with a student.
In stories like this one you generally get three variations in the comments:
1. She’s too beautiful for prison.
2. There’s no crime because the boy enjoyed it.
3. If a man had done this, they’d throw the book at him.
Read the story and then let’s explore the implications revolving around these three issues.
An Iowa teacher-turned-stripper who was charged with sleeping with a 17-year-old student is now facing tougher count after her lurid confessions during a Dr Phil appearance.
Mary Beth Haglin, 24, admitted to sleeping with the teen daily on the October 17 edition of the show. She was arrested in July last year.
As a result, prosecutors have upgraded her charges from misdemeanor sexually exploiting a minor to felony sexual exploitation – bumping her maximum sentence up from two to five years, the NY Post reported.
Papers filed by the Linn County Attorney’s Office in Cedar Rapids point directly to her TV appearances – which also included interviews with Inside Edition and Crime Watch Daily – as the reason for her tougher charges.
Haglin ‘admitted engaging in a pattern or practice of sexual conduct with a student while employed as a teacher at Washington High School, which supports the more serious felony offence,’ the papers said.
The ex-teacher, who now strips under the name ‘Bambi,’ was arrested in July their their six-month affair was spotted by an eagle-eyed classmate – and after the teen showed off her nude pictures to his friends.
The pair had hooked up while Haglin was working at Washington High School in Cedar Rapids.
Their relationship, which ran from January to May this year began, she told Dr Phil, he seduced her with romantic Post-Its.
At the end of class, he would leave the messages on her desk calling her ‘my empress’ and ‘Mrs Robinson’ – the latter a reference the older woman who seduces a young man in the movie ‘The Graduate.’
Eventually, Haglin said, a fight with her then-boyfriend drove her into the teen’s arms – and into a relationship that she says the 17-year-old convinced her was real.
‘He did so with such intelligence and such an elevated vocabulary that I was completely duped by the whole facade,’ Haglin told Dr Phil.
In one letter, written when Haglin was moonlighting as a waitress, the adolescent suggestively wrote: ‘I love the way you smell like pizza. It drives me crazy wanting a piece of the crust.’
Haglin admitted to having sex with the 17-year-old almost every day for nine months, sometimes in her or his car, other times in the homes of the boy’s parents.
Eventually, she said he convinced her to send him sexy photos of herself, including some naked selfies, which he later reportedly shared with his friends at school.
‘I don’t know what was going through his brain,’ Haglin said. ‘He thought it would be cool… bragging rights… I don’t know.’
Let’s tackle the issues.
1. Too beautiful: No one is too beautiful for prison.
2. The boy enjoyed it: Irrelevant. Some women might enjoy being raped by Bill Clinton or even Bill Cosby. Should their enjoyment wipe away the crime? I don’t think so.
Pervert pedophiles argue that babies enjoy sex with adults. Is there no crime if a baby enjoys being masturbated by an adult? I don’t think so.
Furthermore, teachers have a special duty to avoid sexual or romantic relationships with students. Even at the college level, where student and professor are adults, these relationships are banned.
3. Men are punished more severely for sex crimes than women. The question is whether men’s sentences are too harsh or women’s sentences are too light. This question raises the issue of what value should be placed on the innocence of underage minors.
Women wanted equality, but they also want to go on TV and blame anyone but themselves for their predicament. Mary Beth Haglin will be lucky if she only serves five years. There are men in Texas serving 20 and 40 year sentences for similar sex crimes.
I’ve not even touched upon morality, our sexualized culture, or a dozen other different issues that you might be thinking about in regard to this case.
One thing for sure. Teachers have gone wild over the last decade and so have many other women seeking out boy lovers. The lack of restraint in our whole culture is disturbing. Society is clearly breaking down, becoming meaner, more violent, more dishonest, more pornographic, and more exploitative.
Teacher-student sex must be analyzed within that broader context. To do it right would probably take a book or two or six or …